"Don’t Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.” - Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements.
Self-love and assertiveness. What do they mean?
Self-love is the overall opinion of ourselves and how we feel about our abilities and limitations. Self-love comes from within, us thoughts and sense of self.
Lack of self-love can lead to dismissing our own opinions. It can also lead feelings of not good enough or that our ideas are not important. This can be crippling when our voice and opinions are is needed.
To be assertive means to stand up for our ideas, rights, or opinions, and feelings in a calm and positive way. To be assertive is crucial when communicating and can be a game changer for personal improvement.
By surrounding ourselves with positive individuals who provide you with good feedback, you will be more likely to feel valued and worthwhile. Negative individuals can disrupt our ability to be social and may lead to feelings of hostility or create sensitivity to criticism. The people we surround yourself with are important. They are our support system.
Healthy self-love empowers us to ask for our needs, voice our opinions, have confidence in our decision making and become resilient to changes, stress and setbacks. Most importantly, Self-love can help us accomplish our goals and increase our positive actions in life. It’s also good to remember that once we make the decision to assert ourselves, we can do so without being passive or aggressive.
Our inner voice is more powerful than we realize. We can make an active effort to be kind to ourselves. We need to remember that no one is perfect so don’t beat yourself up over little mistakes.
Do what makes you happy. Schedule in some time every day to do the things you enjoy.
Celebrate achievements. You worked hard. You can check that off the to-do list, so that’s worth raising your arms in victory and celebrate.
What can you change? Take control of what you can, focus your energy on what you can achieve.
Aim for honest, open and authentic communication. Respect others’ opinions when sharing your own thoughts, wants, feelings or beliefs.
Learning how to increase self-love can nurture your sense of self. Having a solid support system will benefit the quality of your life and help you achieve your goals.
Communicating love to self
Self-respect is correlated with assertiveness, and self-respect is a strong factor that remains related to assertiveness. Self-confidence plays an important role in our everyday lives. Being confident allows us to set and reach our goals. It provides stability when we are faced with a challenge; it gives us that push that helps us overcome difficulties. Self-confidence is necessary in our personal and professional lives, as without it one would not be successful in either. It gives us the ability to stand up to face our challenges and to pick ourselves up when we fall.
An assertive person is confident and direct in dealing with others. Assertive communications promote fairness and equality in human interactions, based on a positive sense of respect for self and others. It is the direct communication of a person’s needs, wants, and opinions without punishing, threatening, or putting down another person. Assertive behavior includes the ability to stand up for a person’s legitimate rights – without violating the rights of others or being overly fearful in the process. assertive behavior is situational specific; meaning different types of assertive behavior can be used in different situations. Assertive behavior involves three categories of skills; self-affirmation, expressing positive feelings, and expressing negative feelings.
Self-confidence is a belief in oneself, one's abilities, or one's judgment. It is freedom from doubt. When you believe you can change things -- or make a difference in a situation, you are much more likely to succeed. As a self-confident person, you walk with a bounce in your step. You can control your thoughts and emotions and influence others. You are more prepared to tackle everyday challenges and recover from setbacks. This all leads to a greater degree of optimism and life satisfaction.
An assertive individual communicates in a way that clearly states his or her opinions and feelings, and firmly advocates for his or her rights and needs without violating the rights of others. Assertive communication is born of high self-esteem. Assertive people value themselves, their time, and their emotional, spiritual, and physical needs.
They are strong advocates for themselves -- while being very respectful of the rights of others.
Assertive people feel connected to other people.
They make statements of needs and feelings clearly, appropriately, and respectfully. Feeling in control of themselves, they speak in calm and clear tones, are good listeners, and maintain good eye contact.
They create a respectful environment for others, and do not allow others to abuse or manipulate them.
• “I am confident about who I am.”
• “I cannot control others, but I control myself.”
• “I speak clearly, honestly, and to the point.”
• “I consider my options “I know I have choices in my life, happiness.”
• . I am fully responsible for my own “We are equally entitled to express ourselves respectfully to one another.”
Self-praise is an important part of improving your self-esteem, while it may feel uncomfortable at first, it gets easier and really helps to build towards a better more positive future. Don’t forget to give yourself praise every time you achieve.
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