Self-Love Masterclass - #10

​The devastating effects of low self-worth on your life

Most people know that lack of self-worth causes low confidence, shyness, self-doubt or an inability to assert oneself. But its symptoms go so much deeper. They affect every area of our life (often without our knowledge). 

Social anxiety, fear of rejection and a people pleasing tendency all arise from the deep belief that we are unlovable. Unworthy of other people's love, respect and approval.

Feeling like a fraud, fear of judgement, failure and humiliation and the constant worry what others might think about us originate in the conviction that we aren't good enough. And that others can see it written on our forehead.

If we beat ourselves up for our mistakes, are terrified of criticism and only accept perfection from ourselves, we subconsciously think that every misstep will obliterate our hard-earned worth. 

And if somebody bullies us, is condescending or controlling, they do it because they only feel good about themselves if they make others feel inferior to them.

Low self-worth causes a massive amount of problems and struggles in our life. And it is all based on one catastrophic misconception...


The common (and disastrous) misconception of our worth 

You see, Western society buys into the concept that every person is inherently without worth. But we can earn, gain or prove our worth by contributing to society and fulfilling certain criteria. 

These criteria vary between different countries and demographics. But overall, they are excessively focused on wealth, status, popularity and possessions.

This means, we can increase our worth by earning more money, obtaining qualifications, winning esteem and prestige and accumulating belongings.

Furthermore, other people's admiration, love and approval as well as success, triumph and achievements will enhance our worth.

Feeling worthy, deserving and "worthwhile" is a basic human need.

But we grow up being told that we are inherently devoid of any worth. This belief leaves a bottomless emptiness in our heart that pains us every day. Our deepest desire (whether we are aware of it or not) is therefore to stop the craving and suffering caused by our alleged lack of worth.

So, we devote our lives to the pursuit of worth. We work hard, burn ourselves out to be "better" and prioritize everybody and everything else above ourselves.

Striving to be the perfect partner, the perfect employee, boss, parent, friend. Struggling to have the perfect home, perfect body, perfect life.

And we live in constant fear.

Because we believe that every misstep, every failure, mistake and shortcoming will diminish our worth.

And we know we aren't good enough to get it all right. Sooner or later we will mess up, people will see that we are a fraud and our hard-earned worth will be obliterated.

Gone. Leaving us worthless once again.

So, most of our suffering originates in the relentless, obsessive and often hopeless chase for more worth. In the unbearable doubt whether we will ever be good enough the earn any worth. The crippling horror of losing the measly bit of worth we managed to scrape together. And the soul-crushing shame of being condemned to an unworthy existence now and forever more.

But, all this suffering is unnecessary. Because the assumption of our inherent unworthiness is WRONG.


The eye-opening truth about your worth

I don't know who started it, where it came from or who's to blame.

But, at some point during our society's development, we lost the truth. We simply forgot it. And we filled the memory gap with a myth. 

Over the centuries, this myth of our inherent worthlessness has commonly been accepted as our reality. We are worthless. That's just how it is.

But it's not true.

You are not an underachiever or failure. You are not "impossible to love", unacceptable or a social misfit. You are not a victim or people pleaser. You are not an anxious worrier, fraud or pessimist. You are not useless, small or insignificant.

You are not unworthy of happiness and a better life.

And you can NEVER be worthless!

Because the truth is that you ARE worth. Personified.

Worth is the essence of your Being. You are born 100% worth and you will die 100% worth. And nothing you do in between can change anything about your unlimited worth. Because it is inherent to you and doesn't depend on your actions, achievements or mess-ups.

You ARE worth. No matter what.

So, your real problem isn't that you are worthless. That's impossible. The real issue is that you have forgotten all about your infinite, inherent, unconditional worth.

So, speak after me: "I AM worth."

Make this affirmation your new mantra. Your way out of misery, hopelessness and suffering. Repeat it as often as you can. Treasure the words in your heart. Feel their meaning resonate in your soul.

"I AM worth".

Because that's the truth.